three small children and entrepreneurship

It’s 11pm and the baby isn’t asleep.

Tim walks around the kitchen in track pants and TOMS shoes, holding her, humming deeply.

Tomorrow will be another day to try to figure out how to have three small children and an entrepreneurial life.

Our days are atypical – both of us at home – equally sharing in the tasks of moneymaking, baby rocking, replying to emails, making phone calls, making lunches, closing deals, buttoning up princess dresses, and mopping the floors (okay, fine, Tim does all the mopping).

When people ask what we “do,” we used to answer with our latest clients/projects. Lately, though, we just say WHY we do it instead. “We’re entrepreneurs because we want to spend as much time as possible with each other and with our kids.

The contracts fluctuate, but the mission remains the same.

Working from home isn’t idyllic. Our house is LOUD and there are always little voices, needing a glass of water or a book to be read or a back to be scratched or a question to be answered. And now there is a newborn babe to be nursed too.

Back in grad school, we wouldn’t have predicted this future. Between us, we’ve held a number of job titles: Police Officer, Guidance Counselor, Rehabilitation Specialist, Pastor, Editor, and Travel Writer.

All of those jobs have led us to here…to our house. 9-5 and 5-9. We’re always on-the-clock. AND always together – exactly what we’ve dreamed of for so long.

This is our unfolding story (and it’s totally keeping me on the edge of my seat).

  • http://www.discoverystreet.blogspot.com ruthy

    I want this story. I think it’s beautiful when a husband and wife want to work together and be together. Fortunately both of us work from home *kinda,* but we both work for other organizations…we both have an entrepreneurial spirit and I pray one day we can work together for us.

  • http://www.edventureproject.com Jennifer Miller

    Love it Stephanie! So real, so true and so fabulous, even on the hard days. I’m writing this from Nai Yang, Thailand… Tony is across the room in a plastic chair building a database. I’m pecking away at an article due soon and a revision for a book submission, the kids are having a movie marathon afternoon (it’s monsoon season in Thailand and raining HARD today!) We’ve both been home for over 13 years now, full time with our kids, full time working too… it’s worth every second and when your littles are teenagers you’re going to be even MORE glad you’re doing it your way!! Much love to your sweet family!

    • Stephanie

      Thank you for being so encouraging as we begin this journey. You and your family inspire us to live outside the status quo, to live WILDLY and FULLY and COURAGEOUSLY. Hope to meet you “in real life” someday.

      By the way, how long will you be staying in Thailand?

      • http://www.edventureproject.com Jennifer Miller

        You are too kind… we’re just us, nothin’ special. We’d love to meet you, you’re ALWAYS welcome, wherever you find us. We’re in Thailand for about six months… just moved into our house yesterday! :)

  • http://www.StAugustineCabinetsGraniteFlooring.com LeaneG

    A wonderful, beautiful, exciting (&hectic) phase of life.
    Work will always be there. But, babies don’t keep. I put my ‘career’ on hold to stay home.
    Sometimes it doesn’t seem ideal, but I know these are moments I must savor now because these days go so quickly. You have an amazing family. Thank you for including us in your growth & journeys.

  • MarcyB.

    Thank you for sharing! Since having our first child 8 years ago, I have worked from home and my husband works for himself out of the home. So, he has a flexible schedule. We will be having a new baby demanding our attention at all hours of the day soon too. Our friends have a hard time understanding our entrepreneurial spirits, especially with young children. Needless to say, it is very refreshing to hear your comments and know we are not the only ones with a similar journey. So again, THANK YOU!

  • http://blog.suchthespot.com/ Darcie-such the spot

    I am not nearly brave enough to do what you do, though I can peer over at your entrepreneurial life and admire your courage…your devotion to your family. Jeff and I, too, would love to spend our days side by side, and on the rare occasions when we have the chance to do that, we fall into a beautifully rhythmic hum of life uninterrupted. But when we talk about business ventures that would make those rare occasions the norm, it always comes down to one thing: fear. Neither of us have the risk propensity that you do. And so, from the security of my little nest, I look across the treetops to yours and applaud your willingness to “put your money where your mouth is.” Truly, any family *could* make the choices that you and Tim have, but far fewer are brave enough. Dedicated enough. Myself included.

    I hesitated to comment because I don’t know if it’s one of those things where it’s annoying to hear someone label your lifestyle as brave and dedicated. Obviously, those are my words for it. I’m curious if you see it that way, too. What would your words be?

    • http://www.ayearwithmomanddad.com JulieK

      Darcie – in reading your post, I was thinking about how it is brave, and it does take dedication… I know in our family, I am the risk-taker. I’d move across the world tomorrow if a great opportunity presented itself to do good, or have a unique life experience. Obviously nothing that would harm my family but… I am definitely open to change and trying new ventures. My husband on the other hand is the “steady Eddy” of the relationship – he wants stability, roots, safety. So… I doubt we’ll ever try anything as a joint venture, and I doubt we’ll ever move … so I too sit and look across the world at others who seem to have more “freedom” than me and wish I *could* make the same choices…

    • Stephanie

      Tim is the kind of person that is ready to close his eyes and leap off a cliff. I, however, need to do research first and determine the length of the fall and the different scenarios for landing…and then I’ll jump too.

      Entrepreneurship is terrifying, to be sure. It’s not all rainbows and sunbeams. But neither is the corporate track.

      Like so many things, each family has to ultimately decide what is best for them. Every story is different…but that’s the beauty of life, isn’t it? There is such a glorious diversity among us.

  • http://www.ayearwithmomanddad.com JulieK

    I am sure your life is extremely busy… I am curious to know – do you work while the girls are up and about? I try very hard NOT to be on the computer when my son is awake, other than maybe some light email reading or checking weather, planning the day. It makes it VERY hard to get all the online work done later at night… I’m just wondering how you manage that?? I’d love some tips!!

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    You inspire me and challenge me and encourage me without even knowing it…thank you for living out loud a life, as my mom always says, “true to yourselves and to the Lord.” What a beautiful story you live and a legacy you are creating!

    Honored to know you….as always…

  • Kristen

    Yes, yes, and yes… Kids are not conducive to getting stuff done! Jay, in particular, knows how that is! But being together is amazing.. and I am thankful for the sacrifices he makes to be with us more often!

  • Susan Park

    Yes! I too am trying to figure out how to live life with 3 little ones in tow. I vacillate between wanting to get my project ideas done NOW and realizing that my time is finite and I might need to just put some ideas off until the kids are older and a little more self-sufficient. I know that in putting some ideas off they might never get done… so that is hard, but I don’t want to miss the little years, so I need to focus on being present for my kids when I am with them and squeezie my own project time in when I can.

  • http://www.girlymama.com girlymama

    i never ever imagined i’d be a work at home mom. but i love it.
    its hard – its so hard sometimes – but i wouldn’t trade a bigger paycheck to work outside the home. i have so much flexability – i can go to school events, girl scout meetings, bible studies… everything while working at home! that is worth so much more than money.

    • Stephanie

      Agreed. I would definitely take a smaller paycheck for increased flexibility and more time with my kids.